[Western Colo. | February 2020 | San Juan Silver Stage | By Kathryn R. Burke]
Romance—it’s part of that basic need to love and be loved, appreciate and be appreciated. Although love comes in many forms, romantic love is, after all, what got most of us here, and in many cases, it’s what keeps us going.
According to Webster, romance is “a quality or feeling of mystery, excitement, and remoteness from everyday life.” Romance is also one of those unique words that takes on multiple meanings, depending on how it’s expressed: “I’m in a romance” (noun); “I’m in a romantic relationship” (adjective); “He’s romancing me” (verb); “We danced romantically all evening long” (adverb).
It’s that time of courting—of “wooing”—when people lavish one another with affection and experience the emotional and physical intimacy that keeps them in a private cocoon, a bubble that shuts out the rest of the world. Romance is when love seems new, and the romantic partners feel like they are floating on air, hoping it will last forever.
Then…life gets in the way. Romance fizzles or flees. If you stay together, major events consume romantic energy: children, work, new home, new job, aging parents, retirement. Romance winds down into comfortable closeness, then complacency, and sometimes winds up as simply staying together because it’s too scary or difficult to contemplate the alternatives.
Suddenly, you wake up one morning and wonder, “Where did the romance go? How do we get it back?”
Long-term solutions may include relationship counseling. Quicker could be candy and flowers, but the candy is soon eaten and the flowers can’t last forever. What then?
If it’s a new relationship, the romantic ashes are hot—or at least still warm and ready to flare up again. If it’s longer-term, you might need to backtrack to rekindle the fire. Together, remember those heady days of being in love. What did you do? Where did you go? What were your favorite activities? Give yourselves some special time to recapture those memories. Go out. Together. And not to run errands or buy groceries, take the kids to soccer, or visit your parents in the nursing home. Go someplace special! Just the two of you.
Date Night at the Stone House. Image, courtesy K.R. Burke
Start with an intimate dinner for two, where you actually talk to one another. (Leave the phones at home or in the car!) Let past memories fuel the present evening’s discussion.
The Stone House in Montrose can help you feel the love all month long. Monday through Wednesday of Valentine’s week, a special date-night dinner includes wine, appetizers, select entrées, salad, and dessert, plus a vase of roses to take home. The Valentine’s weekend menu also offers choices like surf and turf and special table settings. If you can’t make it that week, every Tuesday night is date night. Reservations are recommended for any of these special treats.
Remington’s at the Bridges—Chef Adam has put together an amazing new seasonal lunch and dinner menu that features classical American cuisine with a Colorado flare. To titillate your romantic taste buds, Chef Adam presents four wonderful specials for Valentine’s weekend in addition to the regular seasonal menu. And every Saturday (except Valentine’s Day), Remington’s Date Night hosts a romantic evening with a four-course meal and bottle of wine for two.